17% of cardiac surgeons are women, 17% of tenured professors are women. It just goes on and on. And isn’t that strange that that’s also the percentage of women in crowd scenes in movies? What if we’re actually training people to see that ratio as normal so that when you’re an adult, you don’t notice?
…We just heard a fascinating and disturbing study where they looked at the ratio of men and women in groups. And they found that if there’s 17% women, the men in the group think it’s 50-50. And if there’s 33% women, the men perceive that as there being more women in the room than men.
If you think you have a problem, and you’re an ego and you’re in difficulty, the answer the Zen master makes to you is “Show me your ego. I want to see this thing that has a problem.” When Bodidharma, the legendary founder of Zen, came to China, a disciple came to him and said “I have no peace of mind. Please pacify my mind.” And Bodhidharma said “Bring out your mind here before me and I’ll pacify it.” “Well,” he said, “when I look for it, I can’t find it.” So Bodhidharma said “There, it’s pacified.” See? Because when you look for your own mind, that is to say, your own particularized center of being which is separate from everything else, you won’t be able to find it. But the only way you’ll know it isn’t there is if you look for it hard enough, to find out that it isn’t there. And so everybody says “All right, know yourself, look within, find out who you are.” Because the harder you look, you won’t be able to find it, and then you’ll realize it isn’t there at all. There isn’t a separate you.
Are you worried? Do you have many ‘what if’ thoughts? You are identified with your mind, which is projecting itself into an imaginary future situation and creating fear. There is no way that you can cope with such a situation, because it doesn’t exist. It’s a mental phantom. You can stop this health and life-corroding insanity simply by acknowledging the present moment.